"POV" Era and the Death of Empathy

We live in an age where truth often loses out to narratives that are "aesthetic." On the screens we scroll through every night, we see thousands of people competing to be the main character in their own lives. However, there is a heavy price we are silently paying for this: we are losing the ability to see others as human beings.

Have you ever noticed this terrible pattern?

Someone has a fight with their partner, and instead of sitting down to talk, they grab their phone. They type a long paragraph over a video of the sunset or a trending sad song. They tell the story of how hurt they are, and how bad their partner is.

Unknowingly, they are editing reality.

They cut out the parts where they were also at fault. They delete the context where they were also selfish. All they present is "I am the victim" and "He/She is the villain." Then, thousands of strangers in the comment section—who do not know the real facts, who do not know the partner—give applause.

"You deserve better!" "That's a red flag, leave them!" "Don't lower your standards!"

And instantly, the ego soars. They feel victorious. They feel right. When, in fact, they are only seeking justification for their inability to compromise.

This is the danger of the "TikTok Standard": We are taught that "Self-Love" is synonymous with "Absolute Egoism."

We are taught that if something is even slightly uncomfortable, it is toxic. We are taught that if a person doesn't meet 100% of our expectations, they are not worth keeping. We become a fragile generation, running from real conflict in pursuit of a false embrace in the virtual world.

Yet, human relationships—be it a marriage, a friendship, or a family—are not built on a 15-second duration. Relationships are built on years of patience, thousands of apologies, and the willingness to lower one's ego for the common good.

If your life standards are based on short quotes on social media, you will end up alone. Because no human is as perfect as they are in someone else's content. Your partner can be tired, your parents can misspeak, your friend can forget. That is not a red flag; that is humanity.

Seeking validation from strangers to justify your own mistakes is the most modern form of cowardice. You win the argument on the internet, but you lose in real life. You gain thousands of likes, but lose the one person who genuinely loves you for who you are.

So, stop making other people's posts your moral compass. Stop seeking support to validate your anger. Start asking yourself: "Am I right, or do I just want to feel victorious?"

Because in the end, your gravestone will not be inscribed with how many people agreed with your opinion on the internet. True happiness does not come from a worshiped ego, but from the humility to recognize that we, too, are flawed human beings who need to be forgiven.